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DrG's Medisense Feature Article
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Getting
the Most Out of Your Doctor: How Nice Is
Best?
December 2011
Print Version
I’ve written much about how to get the most out of your
doctor. I’ve often suggested that you advocate for
yourself in a civilized manner, recognizing that you are not the
doctor’s only patient and he/she is human, under time,
financial and regulatory constraints. Should you construe
that to mean that you should always be
“nice”? Is that the best way to get good
medical care?
A recent commentary in the Journal of the American Medical Association
concludes that “nice patients and families receive a level of
care that is perhaps at times well above the professional
standard.” The authors consider the meaning of
“nice,” recognizing that different physicians
perceive different patterns of behavior as
“nice.” They admit that it is hard for
any human to be professional enough to behave exactly the same towards
patients he/she likes and those who are detested.
Medical care, rarely a simple and straightforward endeavor, requires
thought, effort, consideration and time. Choosing to invest
those limited resources equally into absolutely every patient,
“nice” or obnoxious, can be draining. So
doctors often marginalize the un-nice, or even treat them
poorly.
I have psychiatrically difficult patients who have irritated other
doctors so much that the medical care verged on malpractice.
This lousy “care” is also often rudely delivered to
patients who really have very little control over their
behavior.
On the other side of the story, the “nice” patient,
personal friends and colleagues of the doctor and “very
important persons” often get more attention, testing and
treatment. Is it fair? No. Is it
best? Not necessarily.
What if a doctor’s being extra nice to a favored patient
means that the patient gets a marginally appropriate procedure which
causes a harmful outcome? Or receives too many antibiotics,
causing drug resistance that could make a subsequent infection very
dangerous? In that case, over-doing it means worse medical
care.
Can you be too “nice”? By being
“nice,” do you sabotage your own care by going
along with the doctor, without questioning? Do you choose to
not interrupt, thereby failing to mention a possibly contradictory
symptom? Passivity and suppressed dissention, in the interest
of being nice isn’t necessarily in your best interest.
Sometimes polite assertiveness produces better results, as long as
assertiveness doesn’t assume the face of counterproductive
hostility. I favor productive, polite and civilized
questioning and involvement in decision-making, with a smile that looks
more sincere than Jack Nicholson’s
Joker’s.